Comments on: The Joy Of Sex? http://flotsamblog.com/2006/02/19/the-joy-of-sex/ Deplorable solipsism? The new face of literature? Or merely a clever procrastination device... Fri, 10 Feb 2012 11:02:08 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By: LoverGal http://flotsamblog.com/2006/02/19/the-joy-of-sex/comment-page-1/#comment-46224 LoverGal Thu, 15 Feb 2007 15:44:50 +0000 http://flotsamblog.com/?p=99#comment-46224 That was definitely enjoyable reading. As for sex. I am currently working abroad in England, and I miss the man in my life terribly. Things were fine, sex and otherwise, but being away makes you want it so much more! I definitely want to have sex MUCH more than when I was at home. Unfortunately, I will be away for a year. Difficult times. Don't feel bad about wanting it so much. I think it's normal, but most women don't talk about it. Granted, I know many of the other type of women, who just really aren't interested. Who knows. . . . That was definitely enjoyable reading.

As for sex. I am currently working abroad in England, and I miss the man in my life terribly. Things were fine, sex and otherwise, but being away makes you want it so much more! I definitely want to have sex MUCH more than when I was at home. Unfortunately, I will be away for a year. Difficult times.

Don’t feel bad about wanting it so much. I think it’s normal, but most women don’t talk about it. Granted, I know many of the other type of women, who just really aren’t interested. Who knows. . . .

]]> By: Kath http://flotsamblog.com/2006/02/19/the-joy-of-sex/comment-page-1/#comment-985 Kath Wed, 22 Feb 2006 17:05:04 +0000 http://flotsamblog.com/?p=99#comment-985 Tee hee -- and I thought I was the only one who did evil, evil things with my Barbie. For example, I took her and Ken's clothes off, stuck the dolls on top of each other in a drawer, and occasionally checked in to see what they were getting up to. As for your questions, my usually very healthy libido has taken a great hit recently with all The Troubles, but I do expect it to bounce back. Tee hee — and I thought I was the only one who did evil, evil things with my Barbie. For example, I took her and Ken’s clothes off, stuck the dolls on top of each other in a drawer, and occasionally checked in to see what they were getting up to.

As for your questions, my usually very healthy libido has taken a great hit recently with all The Troubles, but I do expect it to bounce back.

]]> By: April http://flotsamblog.com/2006/02/19/the-joy-of-sex/comment-page-1/#comment-982 April Tue, 21 Feb 2006 18:49:53 +0000 http://flotsamblog.com/?p=99#comment-982 I loved the sash/wrap thing that went with Peaches & Cream Barbie. As for the sex questions - I'm very similar to you in that once a day sounds wonderful to me. Michael would be happy with once a week. When we were first together - it was often multiple times a day. Now when I look at my chart I cringe when I realize how little we actually do. When it does happen, it's usually wonderful, but I just wish it happened more. I loved the sash/wrap thing that went with Peaches & Cream Barbie.

As for the sex questions – I’m very similar to you in that once a day sounds wonderful to me. Michael would be happy with once a week.

When we were first together – it was often multiple times a day. Now when I look at my chart I cringe when I realize how little we actually do.

When it does happen, it’s usually wonderful, but I just wish it happened more.

]]> By: T http://flotsamblog.com/2006/02/19/the-joy-of-sex/comment-page-1/#comment-981 T Tue, 21 Feb 2006 13:30:31 +0000 http://flotsamblog.com/?p=99#comment-981 I love sex. Unfortunately, I don't get/ask for/take a ton of it these days because well, it hurts, damn pelvic bones (but I do have a ton of orgasm's - they tone the uterus y'know). IF and 2 trillion years of marriage definitely screwed with our sex life, but hopefully that's something we can get back, eventually. Now, I really must finish this can of frosting... I love sex. Unfortunately, I don’t get/ask for/take a ton of it these days because well, it hurts, damn pelvic bones (but I do have a ton of orgasm’s – they tone the uterus y’know).

IF and 2 trillion years of marriage definitely screwed with our sex life, but hopefully that’s something we can get back, eventually.

Now, I really must finish this can of frosting…

]]> By: Li http://flotsamblog.com/2006/02/19/the-joy-of-sex/comment-page-1/#comment-980 Li Tue, 21 Feb 2006 02:35:05 +0000 http://flotsamblog.com/?p=99#comment-980 okay...is nobody getting "it" out there? It's especially important when you're not getting it. There is a thing as too much. Sex is great when you have enough time, I agree. Although a quicky in the bathroom before work... Change anything? Not so much the sex but always the time but moreso for me, just me. And I don't mean that kind of time alone. I always want lots of it after a trip away. I think sleeping alone make you want sex more. Like when you are single. okay…is nobody getting “it” out there?
It’s especially important when you’re not getting it.
There is a thing as too much.
Sex is great when you have enough time, I agree.
Although a quicky in the bathroom before work…
Change anything? Not so much the sex but always the time but moreso for me, just me. And I don’t mean that kind of time alone.
I always want lots of it after a trip away.
I think sleeping alone make you want sex more. Like when you are single.

]]> By: Prop Your Hips http://flotsamblog.com/2006/02/19/the-joy-of-sex/comment-page-1/#comment-979 Prop Your Hips Tue, 21 Feb 2006 02:20:36 +0000 http://flotsamblog.com/?p=99#comment-979 I can still remember trying to make Ken and Barbie do it doggie style after finding a copy of Penthouse in my dad's nightstand - those damn legs were too stiff to accomplish it though. In response to your questions: How important is sex to a relationship? Extremely Are you getting enough? Normally yes, I am a little gun-shy post lap. Too much? No such thing What would you change? More time to relax and get into it - our schedules are very hectic lately. If you and your partner have disparate sex drives, is it a source of contention? No - we're pretty flexible if one of us is in the mood, the other tries to get there and if not -well, we know how to take care of business on our own. I can still remember trying to make Ken and Barbie do it doggie style after finding a copy of Penthouse in my dad’s nightstand – those damn legs were too stiff to accomplish it though.

In response to your questions:
How important is sex to a relationship? Extremely
Are you getting enough? Normally yes, I am a little gun-shy post lap.
Too much? No such thing
What would you change? More time to relax and get into it – our schedules are very hectic lately.
If you and your partner have disparate sex drives, is it a source of contention? No – we’re pretty flexible if one of us is in the mood, the other tries to get there and if not -well, we know how to take care of business on our own.

]]> By: TB http://flotsamblog.com/2006/02/19/the-joy-of-sex/comment-page-1/#comment-978 TB Tue, 21 Feb 2006 01:15:55 +0000 http://flotsamblog.com/?p=99#comment-978 The thing I remember best about The Joy of Sex was how hairy the people in the illustrations were. It should have been called The Joy of Shaving. Before my sex life got hijacked by this whold trying to have a baby thing not working out, we were perfectly happy with the amount, variety and overall quality of the sex we had. Both of us. Which from what I understand is rare. Now, we pretty much just save it up for that magic week every month and the occasional stress reliever. Hopefully things will get back to normal at some point though. The thing I remember best about The Joy of Sex was how hairy the people in the illustrations were. It should have been called The Joy of Shaving.

Before my sex life got hijacked by this whold trying to have a baby thing not working out, we were perfectly happy with the amount, variety and overall quality of the sex we had. Both of us. Which from what I understand is rare. Now, we pretty much just save it up for that magic week every month and the occasional stress reliever. Hopefully things will get back to normal at some point though.

]]> By: Ornery http://flotsamblog.com/2006/02/19/the-joy-of-sex/comment-page-1/#comment-977 Ornery Mon, 20 Feb 2006 23:56:36 +0000 http://flotsamblog.com/?p=99#comment-977 My Malibu Barbie and Ken were always dry humping each other until one day I tried to use a curling iron on Barbie and her flaxen locks melted into one globby mess. After that, Ken was noticeably disgusted with her and avoided all eye contact. Asshole. In response to your questions: How important is sex to a relationship? Very Are you getting enough? It's cyclical, and right now we're mid-cycle (meaning it's enough to satisfy, though it could be more) Too much? Never What would you change? It would actually be a form of procreation If you and your partner have disparate sex drives, is it a source of contention? No. If one of us is in the mood and the other's not, then we feel no shame in self-gratification. My Malibu Barbie and Ken were always dry humping each other until one day I tried to use a curling iron on Barbie and her flaxen locks melted into one globby mess. After that, Ken was noticeably disgusted with her and avoided all eye contact. Asshole.

In response to your questions:
How important is sex to a relationship? Very
Are you getting enough? It’s cyclical, and right now we’re mid-cycle (meaning it’s enough to satisfy, though it could be more)
Too much? Never
What would you change? It would actually be a form of procreation
If you and your partner have disparate sex drives, is it a source of contention? No. If one of us is in the mood and the other’s not, then we feel no shame in self-gratification.

]]> By: MsPrufrock http://flotsamblog.com/2006/02/19/the-joy-of-sex/comment-page-1/#comment-975 MsPrufrock Mon, 20 Feb 2006 18:42:39 +0000 http://flotsamblog.com/?p=99#comment-975 I can't believe that upon reading about Peaches n' Cream Barbie, there was an instant spark of recognition whereupon I could perfectly visualise the dress. Yes, I may not be able to remember important information for work, but I can accurately recall Peaches n' Cream Barbie. To make matters worse, I wouldn't have even owned her, given my parents' Barbie embargo. As for the sex, yeah...not so interested. I think I've been scarred by reproductive sex that the enjoyment has dwindled. Occasionally I bother to help The Dude out a bit with sexual favours that don't involve full-on bumping nasties because I'm nice like that. Maybe someday I'll actually be eager to have sex, but for now...eh. Healthy, huh? I can’t believe that upon reading about Peaches n’ Cream Barbie, there was an instant spark of recognition whereupon I could perfectly visualise the dress. Yes, I may not be able to remember important information for work, but I can accurately recall Peaches n’ Cream Barbie. To make matters worse, I wouldn’t have even owned her, given my parents’ Barbie embargo.

As for the sex, yeah…not so interested. I think I’ve been scarred by reproductive sex that the enjoyment has dwindled. Occasionally I bother to help The Dude out a bit with sexual favours that don’t involve full-on bumping nasties because I’m nice like that. Maybe someday I’ll actually be eager to have sex, but for now…eh. Healthy, huh?

]]> By: Mary Scarlet http://flotsamblog.com/2006/02/19/the-joy-of-sex/comment-page-1/#comment-974 Mary Scarlet Mon, 20 Feb 2006 14:54:04 +0000 http://flotsamblog.com/?p=99#comment-974 I've had both types of sex drive: can't get enough, always up for it, then, after a pelvic infection, demonstrable and very frustrating lack of drive. I firmly believe this is a biological thing, and not necessarily age-related. So, I'm in the always enjoy it, generally up for it, but almost never the initiator camp. I know for a fact that there are women in both camps. I've got friends my age who claim to have absolutely no interest in sex at all. Sex is very important to a relationship, and it frustrates my husband that I never initiate. Hard to change that when mired in this weird IF state. I’ve had both types of sex drive: can’t get enough, always up for it, then, after a pelvic infection, demonstrable and very frustrating lack of drive. I firmly believe this is a biological thing, and not necessarily age-related. So, I’m in the always enjoy it, generally up for it, but almost never the initiator camp. I know for a fact that there are women in both camps. I’ve got friends my age who claim to have absolutely no interest in sex at all. Sex is very important to a relationship, and it frustrates my husband that I never initiate. Hard to change that when mired in this weird IF state.

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