Comments on: The Bride Has A Question. http://flotsamblog.com/2006/08/10/the-bride-has-a-question/ Deplorable solipsism? The new face of literature? Or merely a clever procrastination device... Fri, 10 Feb 2012 20:35:09 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By: Kim http://flotsamblog.com/2006/08/10/the-bride-has-a-question/comment-page-2/#comment-27583 Kim Wed, 30 Aug 2006 18:12:17 +0000 http://flotsamblog.com/2006/08/10/the-bride-has-a-question/#comment-27583 Better late than never, just came across your blog from MamaDoctor and am LOVING it! WIsh I had read all these hints before my wedding almost 5 years ago. We did a destination wedding. I used to live in Hawaii, so it kinda felt like an elopement, but I had friends there. I wish I had A) taken a few minutes alone before the wedding to collect myself. I think getting married is a huge spiritual deal, but I didn't get in the right frame of mind. B) EAT BEFORE THE WEDDING. I got a bit too tipsy at the reception due to lack of food. C)Wish I'd done either the cards or photo frame or even a guest book. They all slipped my mind. D) Check consignment stores for your dress. I got a FABULOUS, fancy, schmancy high society dress in New Orleans at a consignment shop for $500. It had to have cost thousands to have made and I would never have spent that much. Lots of comments hauling it around the world on airlines as carry-on which was fun too. (Shipped it home though). You have a fantastic sense of humor and writing skills - I will be reading up! Better late than never, just came across your blog from MamaDoctor and am LOVING it!
WIsh I had read all these hints before my wedding almost 5 years ago.
We did a destination wedding. I used to live in Hawaii, so it kinda felt like an elopement, but I had friends there.
I wish I had
A) taken a few minutes alone before the wedding to collect myself. I think getting married is a huge spiritual deal, but I didn’t get in the right frame of mind.
B) EAT BEFORE THE WEDDING. I got a bit too tipsy at the reception due to lack of food.
C)Wish I’d done either the cards or photo frame or even a guest book. They all slipped my mind.
D) Check consignment stores for your dress. I got a FABULOUS, fancy, schmancy high society dress in New Orleans at a consignment shop for $500. It had to have cost thousands to have made and I would never have spent that much. Lots of comments hauling it around the world on airlines as carry-on which was fun too. (Shipped it home though).
You have a fantastic sense of humor and writing skills – I will be reading up!

]]> By: Emily http://flotsamblog.com/2006/08/10/the-bride-has-a-question/comment-page-2/#comment-25457 Emily Fri, 18 Aug 2006 19:14:00 +0000 http://flotsamblog.com/2006/08/10/the-bride-has-a-question/#comment-25457 I am about to read through all of your archives. YOU HAVE SUCKED ME IN THROUGH YOUR TRACTOR BEAM OF HUMOR. And why the hell not, here's my wedding advice: Don't believe your in-laws when they promise they will pick up the bar tab. Long story short, my in-laws promised to take care of the bar bill (most of my family are complete tee-totalers). They INSISTED that it would be more expensive to do alcohol by the head as opposed to by the drink. (WRONG!) Then the bill came to (hold your breath) $4200. And they refused to give us any more than half of it. We got stuck with the rest. Poor sportsmanship, in my opinion. Anyways. Back to your archives. I am going to pleasure myself this Friday! Wait. With your archives. And not in any kind of sexual way. I am about to read through all of your archives. YOU HAVE SUCKED ME IN THROUGH YOUR TRACTOR BEAM OF HUMOR.

And why the hell not, here’s my wedding advice: Don’t believe your in-laws when they promise they will pick up the bar tab. Long story short, my in-laws promised to take care of the bar bill (most of my family are complete tee-totalers). They INSISTED that it would be more expensive to do alcohol by the head as opposed to by the drink. (WRONG!) Then the bill came to (hold your breath) $4200. And they refused to give us any more than half of it. We got stuck with the rest.

Poor sportsmanship, in my opinion.

Anyways. Back to your archives. I am going to pleasure myself this Friday!

Wait. With your archives. And not in any kind of sexual way.

]]> By: Erin http://flotsamblog.com/2006/08/10/the-bride-has-a-question/comment-page-1/#comment-25035 Erin Thu, 17 Aug 2006 01:05:29 +0000 http://flotsamblog.com/2006/08/10/the-bride-has-a-question/#comment-25035 Elope! I did and never regretted it for a second. Honestly, as long as you have a nice dress and some pretty pictures -- that's all that matters. Elope!

I did and never regretted it for a second.

Honestly, as long as you have a nice dress and some pretty pictures — that’s all that matters.

]]> By: dame olympia http://flotsamblog.com/2006/08/10/the-bride-has-a-question/comment-page-1/#comment-24739 dame olympia Wed, 16 Aug 2006 04:36:55 +0000 http://flotsamblog.com/2006/08/10/the-bride-has-a-question/#comment-24739 I think your website rocks. As a Unitarian Universalist minister, if you have a religious officiant, I have several suggestions. 1) everyone calls the minister at the last minute. Just Say NO! Call the minister or officiant early. They will appreciate it. 2) Treat the minister like a professional. They will spend a lot of time with you planning a nice personalized service, and it will be something you and your family enjoy. They will work hard with you, and you should treat them nicely, not as "wedding staff." 3) Pay the minister ahead of time. That way, you do not have to write the check after the service, when all you really want to do is party with your family and friends. It is worth it. Write the check ahead of time and give it to someone you trust to pay the minister. 4) Be open and communicative about your relationship and family information. It will help the minister or officiant create a personalized service. Any other questions... Let me know. Dame Olympia I think your website rocks.

As a Unitarian Universalist minister, if you have a religious officiant, I have several suggestions.

1) everyone calls the minister at the last minute. Just Say NO! Call the minister or officiant early. They will appreciate it.

2) Treat the minister like a professional. They will spend a lot of time with you planning a nice personalized service, and it will be something you and your family enjoy. They will work hard with you, and you should treat them nicely, not as “wedding staff.”

3) Pay the minister ahead of time. That way, you do not have to write the check after the service, when all you really want to do is party with your family and friends. It is worth it. Write the check ahead of time and give it to someone you trust to pay the minister.

4) Be open and communicative about your relationship and family information. It will help the minister or officiant create a personalized service.

Any other questions…
Let me know.

Dame Olympia

]]> By: SouthernComfortable http://flotsamblog.com/2006/08/10/the-bride-has-a-question/comment-page-1/#comment-24555 SouthernComfortable Tue, 15 Aug 2006 15:13:13 +0000 http://flotsamblog.com/2006/08/10/the-bride-has-a-question/#comment-24555 I got married last October, so the memory is still pretty fresh. The one small thing that I am absolutely most happy I did: Flip flops at the reception. My dress was floor length and quite poufy, and my ceremony shoes were lovely low heels. I bought white, thick flops at the bridal shoe store (best $35 I ever spent in my life). They ended up keeping me the right height, so my dress didn't drag. It was sheer joy to go through the reception sans heels and panty hose. Sheer joy, I tell you. No one could see ym feet, anyway, and I was infinitely happier. I got married last October, so the memory is still pretty fresh. The one small thing that I am absolutely most happy I did: Flip flops at the reception. My dress was floor length and quite poufy, and my ceremony shoes were lovely low heels. I bought white, thick flops at the bridal shoe store (best $35 I ever spent in my life). They ended up keeping me the right height, so my dress didn’t drag. It was sheer joy to go through the reception sans heels and panty hose. Sheer joy, I tell you. No one could see ym feet, anyway, and I was infinitely happier.

]]> By: Mel http://flotsamblog.com/2006/08/10/the-bride-has-a-question/comment-page-1/#comment-24463 Mel Tue, 15 Aug 2006 02:42:17 +0000 http://flotsamblog.com/2006/08/10/the-bride-has-a-question/#comment-24463 I'm pausing for a moment from painting the skulls of family and friends (you never know when you may have a second wedding, any since you're supposed to do it 15 years in advance, I figure I should get cracking) to comment. This is something I did and I'm glad I did it--after the ceremony, DH and I went off for a few minutes of alone time. It's actually part of a Jewish ceremony, but I think everyone should do it. Just to breathe. Let everyone know that you're doing this beforehand or they'll plan pictures (and other things to overwhelm you) immediately following the ceremony. We had the matron of honour guard the door. It was just fifteen minutes to giggle and collect ourselves (and some other people have used their fifteen mintues to...achem...do other things). And totally made jumping back into the craziness (and we had a small wedding) totally manageable. I’m pausing for a moment from painting the skulls of family and friends (you never know when you may have a second wedding, any since you’re supposed to do it 15 years in advance, I figure I should get cracking) to comment. This is something I did and I’m glad I did it–after the ceremony, DH and I went off for a few minutes of alone time. It’s actually part of a Jewish ceremony, but I think everyone should do it. Just to breathe. Let everyone know that you’re doing this beforehand or they’ll plan pictures (and other things to overwhelm you) immediately following the ceremony. We had the matron of honour guard the door. It was just fifteen minutes to giggle and collect ourselves (and some other people have used their fifteen mintues to…achem…do other things). And totally made jumping back into the craziness (and we had a small wedding) totally manageable.

]]> By: roo http://flotsamblog.com/2006/08/10/the-bride-has-a-question/comment-page-1/#comment-24455 roo Tue, 15 Aug 2006 00:47:22 +0000 http://flotsamblog.com/2006/08/10/the-bride-has-a-question/#comment-24455 This may not be an issue for you, if you're planning on going on your honeymoon straight from the reception, but... Jeff and I booked a bed and breakfast for our wedding night, with plans to go back to his parents' house for a post-wedding breakfast for all the people who'd come from out of town. And I completely forgot to bring a change of clothes. I ended up wearing Jeff's polar fleece and pajama bottoms with my sparkly silver wedding shoes. Yeah. I looked hip. Also-- make sure someone provides plates and napkins for your ceremonial eating of the wedding cake (if you're doing that.) There weren't any on the pretty little display table when it was time to cut, so I ended up holding a slice of cake in my bare hand-- which was promptly slimed with buttercream frosting. Ah well. This may not be an issue for you, if you’re planning on going on your honeymoon straight from the reception, but…

Jeff and I booked a bed and breakfast for our wedding night, with plans to go back to his parents’ house for a post-wedding breakfast for all the people who’d come from out of town. And I completely forgot to bring a change of clothes. I ended up wearing Jeff’s polar fleece and pajama bottoms with my sparkly silver wedding shoes.

Yeah. I looked hip.

Also– make sure someone provides plates and napkins for your ceremonial eating of the wedding cake (if you’re doing that.) There weren’t any on the pretty little display table when it was time to cut, so I ended up holding a slice of cake in my bare hand– which was promptly slimed with buttercream frosting. Ah well.

]]> By: Nicole http://flotsamblog.com/2006/08/10/the-bride-has-a-question/comment-page-1/#comment-24426 Nicole Mon, 14 Aug 2006 20:30:22 +0000 http://flotsamblog.com/2006/08/10/the-bride-has-a-question/#comment-24426 Oh, instead of the guestbook! We had note cards printed and sent with the invitations. Whether you could go or not, you filled out the card with some sentiment. There were extras at the site too, but they were all sealed up by my mom in an envelope that we opened on our 1st anniversary. That was nice. Oh, instead of the guestbook! We had note cards printed and sent with the invitations. Whether you could go or not, you filled out the card with some sentiment. There were extras at the site too, but they were all sealed up by my mom in an envelope that we opened on our 1st anniversary.

That was nice.

]]> By: Jesse http://flotsamblog.com/2006/08/10/the-bride-has-a-question/comment-page-1/#comment-24325 Jesse Mon, 14 Aug 2006 14:07:27 +0000 http://flotsamblog.com/2006/08/10/the-bride-has-a-question/#comment-24325 I know I commented previously, but just thought of another thing to add. Instead of doing a guestbook that you will never, in all likelihood, look through again after your big day, think about this alternative. A large B&W photo of you and the actually framed and matted with a very large mat. Set the picture on a table at the entrance with a pen and have people write their names and/or comments around the outside of the pic on the mat. You'll have something neat to hang in your house that can be looked at an re-read over and over again through the years. I know I commented previously, but just thought of another thing to add. Instead of doing a guestbook that you will never, in all likelihood, look through again after your big day, think about this alternative. A large B&W photo of you and the actually framed and matted with a very large mat. Set the picture on a table at the entrance with a pen and have people write their names and/or comments around the outside of the pic on the mat. You’ll have something neat to hang in your house that can be looked at an re-read over and over again through the years.

]]> By: Flicka http://flotsamblog.com/2006/08/10/the-bride-has-a-question/comment-page-1/#comment-24307 Flicka Mon, 14 Aug 2006 13:01:19 +0000 http://flotsamblog.com/2006/08/10/the-bride-has-a-question/#comment-24307 Forgive me if I'm repeating something, I skipped all the above comments. At the reception we placed small cards at each plate explaining that instead of favors we'd made a charitable contribution. It was very well recieved. In my experience, no one really cares about the favors anyway. They care about the bride and groom. Also, ballet flats saved my feet. I'm tall, so I wore them all day. If you hate the idea of feeling shorter (and I can't imagine why you would; I'd rather be a wood-elf than a giant) maybe get some platform sneakers for the reception. Trust me, unless you get one of those elegant sheath thingies, your dress will weigh about fifty pounds by the end of the evening. Forgive me if I’m repeating something, I skipped all the above comments.

At the reception we placed small cards at each plate explaining that instead of favors we’d made a charitable contribution. It was very well recieved. In my experience, no one really cares about the favors anyway. They care about the bride and groom.

Also, ballet flats saved my feet. I’m tall, so I wore them all day. If you hate the idea of feeling shorter (and I can’t imagine why you would; I’d rather be a wood-elf than a giant) maybe get some platform sneakers for the reception. Trust me, unless you get one of those elegant sheath thingies, your dress will weigh about fifty pounds by the end of the evening.

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