Comments on: Well, That Got a Bit Darker Than I Intended.

By: Erin

Erin — Sun, 11 Nov 2007 21:32:25 +0000

If it makes you feel better WRT sex, by the time he can feel the babies kicking from the outside, you will be too big for him to reach you from the front. So it’ll all involve other positions from which he would have to put hands to stomach in order to feel them kick. No problem!

I’m still thinking good thoughts for you and can’t wait to hear if you do, in fact, feel sexy after having given birth to two entire babies. I felt sexy after having given birth to one (the loss of 16 lbs in 2 days will do that), so maybe you’ll feel twice as sexy! And equally frustrated because you really can’t do anything.

By: Hilary (The Trying Game)

Hilary (The Trying Game) — Sun, 11 Nov 2007 16:28:51 +0000

I totally understand your worry. Especially, like so many of your readers, you’ve been trying to get to this place for so long. I wish I had some great advice for you that would help, but being an extreme worrier myself, I’m afraid I’m at a loss. But honestly, Sandra is right, you have a better chance of having healthy babies than not at this point. I think that counts for a lot. And hey – if you think you’re worried now – just wait for the next 18 years!!

By: Becky

Becky — Sun, 11 Nov 2007 16:28:01 +0000

The worrying never ends, does it? I’ve worried through both of my pregnancies and until I had the babies in my arms, I breathed a sigh of relief.

It’s tough, really tough.

By: All Adither

All Adither — Sun, 11 Nov 2007 16:10:14 +0000

I worried worried worried through my pregnancies too (and I only ever had one baby in there). Probably it was because I was off Zoloft, but also, I was learning what it is to be a mom and worrying is a huge part of it.

You’re already concerned about those babies because you’re their mom and it will last for their whole lives. And yours.

By: amanda

amanda — Sun, 11 Nov 2007 15:15:27 +0000

I do wish I had some magic words… a magic future-reading ball… all I’ve got is the personal feeling I have that you are going to welcome two beautiful, amazing, perfect children into a baby-housing room… and then into a child-housing room… and then into a moody-adolescent-housing room. I even believe that you are going to attend proms and graduations and weddings.

Hang in there. I’m happy you have the denial and the happy-basking moments. You will all be great.

By: Farah

Farah — Sun, 11 Nov 2007 15:05:41 +0000

I know that I am not nearly as far along as you are but i can’t help myself from those same feelings. I was wondering if/when they go away- maybe for the Infertiles, Never? I can’t even bring myself towrite about it on my blog for sake of some thing bad to read it and take away my pregnant state …

By: christina (theoneliner)

christina (theoneliner) — Sun, 11 Nov 2007 14:37:19 +0000

that is one adavantage to adopting. that i feel but haven’t really told anyone…i won’t have to worry about miscarrying for months.
not that that is a rational thought. but fear by definition isn’t rational.
they’re going to be fine. they are.

By: cat, galloping

cat, galloping — Sun, 11 Nov 2007 14:15:30 +0000

You can order all those things online if you have to get off your feet. No worries!

By: pinn

pinn — Sun, 11 Nov 2007 13:30:21 +0000

And when they do start kicking you will panic everytime you feel it’s been too long since the last kick… I was the same way. Try to keep cool though, they’ll be just fine and in your arms before you know it.

By: Waiting Amy

Waiting Amy — Sun, 11 Nov 2007 13:10:36 +0000

I agree, Ice Cream makes a great salve for worry. Hang in there.