Like Athena.
Today is the last day of secret blogging, as we leave tomorrow morning on the drive back to our cats, my own laptop, and our shamefully filthy apartment. The strangest thing that has happened this trip is that I have realized, quite by accident, that I have some very firm ideas about how I want to raise my future children. If you had asked me outright about my parenting philosophy or somesuch I would have scoffed and said something about waiting until I had live children to think about that. But I seem to have very clear reactions when certain things are mentioned by others (to discuss this more specifically I will probably resort to a password-protected post at some point, but you can draw your own conclusions) and it turns out that I feel strongly about what my children will eat and play with and watch—and those feelings are decidedly…crunchier than I was expecting. I have to say it has been somewhat surreal to hear these apparently fully-formed opinions come tumbling out of my mouth from god-knows where.
Ack…being called away for dinner…
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I think we all have ideas about how we want to parent.
But also, the ideas I had about things keep changing as Amy gets bigger.
There are still some things I will NEVER do and others that I am more flexible about.
I have very firm ideas about how I shall raise my children, but I’m still mentally at the ‘if’ stage.
J
You’ll be so much better off having those ideas formed, as childrearing brings out the same sort of here’s-my-opinion-shut-up-beacuse-I-know-better-than-you mentality normally associated with weddings in everyone from family to the clerks at the hardware store.
Crunchier…as in granola?
I surprised myself by getting all crunchy about labour and birth. Prior to about 6 months into my pregnancy, I was all about drugs, drugs, drugs and a pain-free birth by any means possible. Suddenly I decided I wanted to do it completely natural, and that realisation was one of the strangest in my life. Aside from the clusterfuck that was breastfeeding, I’m getting crunchier all the time.
Let’s be crunchy together. Ooo la la.
Ah yes… Crunchy.
It works for us - with some modifications every now and then.
Y’a know.. I have said “my children won’t/will ever do THAT” alot lately …. Weird Huh. I am glad that you are makng a crunchier plan now ..being prepared
I think crunchy and kids is a good mix… especially at the holidays b/c, since we don’t watch tv, she has no idea of all the crap out there being marketed to her… its great. When asked what she wants for Christmas she said “a kite”.
Go get yourself some Mothering magazines and you’ll be all set- they’re a little more crunchy then even I can take sometimes and I had a homebirth! but I love reading them.
You’ll be a great momma… just follow your own instincts and you’ll do wonderfully. :)
Its always a good thing to try and plan stragies with your spouse when it comes to parenting, insure you have a united front.
There are lots of things that I have changed my mnd about over these last 10 years of having my boys in my life. I stand firm on most things and its proved to work well for us. Almost everyone we meet say that our boys are the most polite and respectful kids they have ever met. We are very proud of that.
You will know instictively what it right for you. And there are all kinds of books, magazines, and other parents out there to help you along the way.