Flotsam

Jan

22 weeks, 2 days.

No heartbeat on Baby A.

I can’t think of anything else to say, except maybe a hearty Fuck You to the receptionist who, when making our follow-up appointment for next week, after looking DIRECTLY AT MY CHART and then my swollen, tearstained face, said “Twins, right?”

By Alexa | Posted in Ceci N'est Pas Une Ecrivaine |

Comments (195)

194 Comments

Kate

Posted January 14, 2008 at 2:16 pm | Permalink

I am so very sorry, my heart breaks for you….
Emma B

Posted January 14, 2008 at 2:18 pm | Permalink

Oh, no no no. I am so sorry.
Debrah

Posted January 14, 2008 at 2:19 pm | Permalink

Oh my God, I am just heartbroken for you
Jess

Posted January 14, 2008 at 2:23 pm | Permalink

Not much moves me to tears, but I am sitting here with tears sliding down my face over your loss. We are all here for you. *hugs*
Megs

Posted January 14, 2008 at 2:32 pm | Permalink

Alexa, there are no words. I’m so sorry and will be thinking of you nonstop.
Sue

Posted January 14, 2008 at 2:35 pm | Permalink

I am so sorry.
Jessie

Posted January 14, 2008 at 2:36 pm | Permalink

I am so sad to hear this, Alexa. My thoughts are with you and Scott. There are just no words to tell you how sorry I am for you.
Kristina

Posted January 14, 2008 at 2:41 pm | Permalink

I am so incredibly sorry. My prayers are with you.
Ariel

Posted January 14, 2008 at 2:42 pm | Permalink

Hugs dear.
silver

Posted January 14, 2008 at 2:43 pm | Permalink

That’s not fair. I wish I had something better to say.
Sarah

Posted January 14, 2008 at 2:44 pm | Permalink

I am so sorry…
Teej

Posted January 14, 2008 at 2:46 pm | Permalink

Oh, Alexa. My heart dropped into my stomach when I read your post, and I don’t know what to say. I can’t even imagine what you’re going through, but for what it’s worth, I know you’ll be occupying my thoughts for a long time.
swisschard

Posted January 14, 2008 at 2:46 pm | Permalink

another very sorry reader, knowing there is nothing we can do, expecting such different news, and so seriously dismally sorry
SparklieSunShine

Posted January 14, 2008 at 2:51 pm | Permalink

((hugs)) New reader here and I am so very sorry to hear you. Good thoughts your way.

Thoughts of sending packages with smelly gym socks in the way of the receptionist, though.
SparklieSunShine

Posted January 14, 2008 at 2:52 pm | Permalink

I meant to say this instead of you up there. whoops.
Barbara

Posted January 14, 2008 at 2:53 pm | Permalink

Goddamn it. That is not fucking fair. I am so sorry.
jonniker

Posted January 14, 2008 at 2:54 pm | Permalink

I’m so very sorry, Alexa. My heart breaks for you and Scott. Much, much love.
amanda

Posted January 14, 2008 at 2:56 pm | Permalink

fuck. i am so so so sorry. so incredibly sorry. fuck.
Katie

Posted January 14, 2008 at 2:57 pm | Permalink

I know it doesn’t help, but I’m so sorry, and of you all.
margot

Posted January 14, 2008 at 2:59 pm | Permalink

Oh no Alexa! I’m so so sorry. How awful, how un-fucking fair.

Sending warm and safe thoughts to you guys.
Schnozz

Posted January 14, 2008 at 3:01 pm | Permalink

Alexa. Oh my God. I’m so sorry.
Jen

Posted January 14, 2008 at 3:05 pm | Permalink

Oh, fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck. I am so tremendously sorry, sweetie.
Farah

Posted January 14, 2008 at 3:07 pm | Permalink

Alexa- oh my heart is breaking for you and Scot and fam.
MsPrufrock

Posted January 14, 2008 at 3:07 pm | Permalink

Oh Alexa, I’m so, so, sorry.

I’ll be thinking of you and Scott.
Artblog

Posted January 14, 2008 at 3:10 pm | Permalink

OH NO! I hate saying sorry, seems so lame, I guess really I’m heartbroken for you, so fucking unfair :(

All I can do is give you a huge HUG for the moment!
B. Mare

Posted January 14, 2008 at 3:14 pm | Permalink

I’m so, so sorry to hear this. Oh honey. Just…thinking of you and wishing so much it could have turned out differently.
ecogeeko

Posted January 14, 2008 at 3:16 pm | Permalink

this is so heartbreakingly sad. what a cruel shock. My heart goes out to you.
Jendeis

Posted January 14, 2008 at 3:17 pm | Permalink

Oh my God. I am so sorry Alexa. This just sucks. We’re all thinking and praying for you guys.
Erin

Posted January 14, 2008 at 3:18 pm | Permalink

Oh Alexa, I’m so sorry. I’m sending a big hug your way and thinking of you and Scott.
She Likes Purple

Posted January 14, 2008 at 3:19 pm | Permalink

My heart is broken in half and I have tears streaming down my face for you. I am sorry, a million times over.
Amanda 2

Posted January 14, 2008 at 3:19 pm | Permalink

I am so sorry. My thoughts are with you.
electriclady

Posted January 14, 2008 at 3:20 pm | Permalink

Oh Alexa. I just…oh fuck. I am so sorry. Thinking of you.
Jul

Posted January 14, 2008 at 3:21 pm | Permalink

I’m so sorry, Alexa… I’ll be thinking of you, Scott and your family.
Susan

Posted January 14, 2008 at 3:22 pm | Permalink

I am so very very sorry.
KL

Posted January 14, 2008 at 3:22 pm | Permalink

That wasn’t supposed to happen :( This is so wrong. I’m so sorry!
Molly

Posted January 14, 2008 at 3:23 pm | Permalink

God, Alexa, I’m so sorry. Just really…cruel. I’m so sorry.
Julie

Posted January 14, 2008 at 3:24 pm | Permalink

Alexa, I’m stunned and so terribly sorry.
Veronica

Posted January 14, 2008 at 3:37 pm | Permalink

Oh fuck. Just fuck.

Oh hun, I wish I knew the right thing to say. This sucks. I’m so sorry.
Nancy

Posted January 14, 2008 at 3:38 pm | Permalink

Oh Alexa, oh fuck. I’m so horribly sorry for you and Scott.
Face

Posted January 14, 2008 at 3:46 pm | Permalink

I am usually just a reader…but I felt compelled to post.

There are no words, to express my sympathy for you, your husband and your families…

So horrifically unfair…
Ronna

Posted January 14, 2008 at 3:46 pm | Permalink

Alexa, I am so very sorry. There just aren’t any other words. I am heartbroken for you.
leenie

Posted January 14, 2008 at 4:02 pm | Permalink

oh no oh no oh no.

so sorry. so so sorry.
tipsymarie

Posted January 14, 2008 at 4:07 pm | Permalink

Oh, Alexa. I am crying for you. I am just so incredibly sorry.
megan

Posted January 14, 2008 at 4:08 pm | Permalink

oh fuck, alexa.
there are no words.
i am so, so sorry.
Mel

Posted January 14, 2008 at 4:12 pm | Permalink

I’m speechless and so so sorry.
wavybrains

Posted January 14, 2008 at 4:20 pm | Permalink

So sorry. So very sorry. You’re in my thoughts.
EJW

Posted January 14, 2008 at 4:23 pm | Permalink

Oh Alexa, I’m so sorry. So very very sorry.
Madge

Posted January 14, 2008 at 4:31 pm | Permalink

Another reader thinking of you. I am so, so terribly sorry.
AussieAndrea

Posted January 14, 2008 at 4:33 pm | Permalink

Farking spewin, as we’d say down here. That really sucks. You’re in my thoughts, I hope that you are doing ok, as best you can…
aimee

Posted January 14, 2008 at 4:37 pm | Permalink

Oh, Alexa … I wish I could give you a huge hug and cry with you. I’m crying FOR you, from gloomy Chicago (and it’s suddenly feeling even more gloomy now). I don’t have the words to tell you how sorry I am. You and Scott and Baby B are in my prayers.
Kathy

Posted January 14, 2008 at 4:57 pm | Permalink

I am so, so incredibly sorry to hear this. Please take good care of yourselves and know that there are many of us out here whose hearts are breaking alongside yours.
Sarah

Posted January 14, 2008 at 4:57 pm | Permalink

My heart hurts for you. I’m so sorry for your loss.
Kirby

Posted January 14, 2008 at 5:00 pm | Permalink

So very sorry. There are no good words.
Emily

Posted January 14, 2008 at 5:14 pm | Permalink

I am so so sorry, Alexa. So sorry.
Lala

Posted January 14, 2008 at 5:20 pm | Permalink

Mare sent me. I’m terribly sorry that you’ve suffered this loss. Keep talking to us…..
Bittermama

Posted January 14, 2008 at 5:26 pm | Permalink

Oh my god. Alexa I’m just in total shock and I don’t know what to say. I’m sick to my stomach and lightheaded. I can’t even cry. This is just so wrong. I’ll be holding you and Scott and Baby B close in my thoughts.
Becky

Posted January 14, 2008 at 5:46 pm | Permalink

Oh sweetie. Oh sweetie I am so sorry. Sorry doesn’t begin to encompass how I feel right now, but I have no better words. I only wish I did.
Leaf, probably...

Posted January 14, 2008 at 5:53 pm | Permalink

Sorry. Just, sorry.
Vixen

Posted January 14, 2008 at 5:55 pm | Permalink

To tell you how sorry I am for you seems pitiful, but I am so sorry. I will be praying for all of you.
Sally

Posted January 14, 2008 at 5:56 pm | Permalink

Sorry. Keep strong for baby B and hubby.
Newt

Posted January 14, 2008 at 5:57 pm | Permalink

Oh shit–no! I’m so sorry. There are no words, and all I can say is just how sorry I am and how un-fucking-fair that is, and I hope that bitch receptionist burns in hell. You and your family will be in my thoughts and in my heart.
elizabeth

Posted January 14, 2008 at 6:04 pm | Permalink

Oh, no, Alexa. I am so, so sorry…there really are no words. I will be thinking of you all.
Heidi

Posted January 14, 2008 at 6:10 pm | Permalink

Oh my God, I’m so so sorry.
Lori

Posted January 14, 2008 at 6:12 pm | Permalink

There is nothing to say that could possible ease your pain. Words are empty right now. Love and prayers are everywhere for you, your husband and both your babies. “God speed little man, sweet dreams little man, my love will fly to you each night on angel’s wings….god speed, sweet dreams..”
Dixie Chicks.
Heather

Posted January 14, 2008 at 6:22 pm | Permalink

I’m so sorry.

I’m thinking of you.

Please let me know if there is something I can do.
thalia

Posted January 14, 2008 at 6:25 pm | Permalink

Oh alexa I’m so very very sorry for your loss. What utterly awful,heartbreaking news.
elizasmom

Posted January 14, 2008 at 6:27 pm | Permalink

I am so sorry, so very, very sorry.
Jenni

Posted January 14, 2008 at 6:30 pm | Permalink

I am at a complete loss of words. My heart is aching for you.
My Reality

Posted January 14, 2008 at 6:30 pm | Permalink

I am so sorry, Alexa.
All Adither

Posted January 14, 2008 at 6:33 pm | Permalink

Oh no, no, no. Is there any chance the baby was just in a weird position? Any chance at all?
Waiting Amy

Posted January 14, 2008 at 6:35 pm | Permalink

I’m sorry doesn’t say enough. This is shocking and heart wenching. I wish there was more we could do for you and Scott. Thinking of you Alexa, take care.
Cricket

Posted January 14, 2008 at 6:40 pm | Permalink

There are no words. We are thinking of both of you and sending our love.
erica

Posted January 14, 2008 at 6:44 pm | Permalink

I’m so sorry you are going through this. You are all in my thoughts and prayers!
Dead Bug

Posted January 14, 2008 at 6:47 pm | Permalink

I am so very, very sorry. You are in my thoughts.

–Bugs
Star

Posted January 14, 2008 at 7:03 pm | Permalink

So very sorry to hear this sad news. There is no understanding why something like this could happen. Will be thinking of you and your family during this difficult time.
christina

Posted January 14, 2008 at 7:04 pm | Permalink

Oh my god no. I know you are in so much pain right now. Please know there are people out here pulling for you and your family.
Hugs to you.
Karen

Posted January 14, 2008 at 7:04 pm | Permalink

Longtime lurker here…I’m so very sorry.
Humuhumu

Posted January 14, 2008 at 7:05 pm | Permalink

I’m so, so sorry. I want so badly to be able to say something that will help you even just a little bit, but I cannot even fathom how. Just know that despite the uselessness of it, I wish so completely that things were different for you right now. I’m so deeply sorry for your loss.
Melinda

Posted January 14, 2008 at 7:05 pm | Permalink

There are no words. My thoughs are with you all.
Shawna

Posted January 14, 2008 at 7:06 pm | Permalink

I’m so sorry to hear about the loss of your child. Your family is in our thoughts.
Liz

Posted January 14, 2008 at 7:11 pm | Permalink

I am so so sorry. This is heartbreaking.
Christy

Posted January 14, 2008 at 7:13 pm | Permalink

what?!?! no, no, no! Oh, I can’t even begin to tell you how sorry I am to hear this, Alexa.
Katrina

Posted January 14, 2008 at 7:16 pm | Permalink

I am soooo sorry. I wish I could say something better, but there are just no words.
Leggy/Clover

Posted January 14, 2008 at 7:17 pm | Permalink

Oh God- this breaks my heart. I am sooo sooo sorry for your loss. I wish it wasn’t so. Oh how awful. Thinking of you and your husband…
elise

Posted January 14, 2008 at 7:27 pm | Permalink

I also had that horrible feeling in the pit of my stomach. But maybe the baby is hiding? Maybe something is in the way? Is there any hope at all?
brid

Posted January 14, 2008 at 7:30 pm | Permalink

shit. so sorry.
lisa

Posted January 14, 2008 at 7:33 pm | Permalink

I’m so very, very sorry.
Melissa

Posted January 14, 2008 at 7:33 pm | Permalink

I am so sorry, Alexa. Is there any chance of a mistake? My thoughts are with you.
Lori

Posted January 14, 2008 at 7:38 pm | Permalink

I am so terribly sorry. My heart is just breaking for you.
Andrea

Posted January 14, 2008 at 7:40 pm | Permalink

There is nothing to say that will make you feel better. I wish there was. This is something one learns from loss. But even knowing this to be true, I want to say something to help but can only scream from the unfairness of it all.

The doctor’s receptionist has no soul. People like that should not be allowed to work around other people.
Dooneybug

Posted January 14, 2008 at 7:41 pm | Permalink

Oh God Alexa. There are no words, only I’m just so sorry for your loss.
Laurel

Posted January 14, 2008 at 7:41 pm | Permalink

I am so so so so sorry. This is just plain not fair and not right. Please take good care of yourself and let us know if there is absolutely anything we can do. You, your husband, and baby B are in our thoughts and prayers.
Sami

Posted January 14, 2008 at 7:42 pm | Permalink

I am so sorry – there are no words that will provide you comfort, but I am truly sorry. This just sucks.
kris

Posted January 14, 2008 at 7:47 pm | Permalink

I am so very terribly sorry…
Michelle

Posted January 14, 2008 at 7:50 pm | Permalink

I am so very sorry.
Jen

Posted January 14, 2008 at 8:00 pm | Permalink

Motherfucker. I’m am so sorry, this is just too sad.
Meghan

Posted January 14, 2008 at 8:10 pm | Permalink

I am SO, SO sorry.
OrchidLover

Posted January 14, 2008 at 8:13 pm | Permalink

My god. I’m so sorry. I hope you are okay. My heart breaks for you from across the country. I don’t know what to say other than I can’t believe it and I’m so, so sorry.
Melissa in TN

Posted January 14, 2008 at 8:19 pm | Permalink

I am so very sorry. You are in my prayers.
marie baguette

Posted January 14, 2008 at 8:19 pm | Permalink

I am so very sorry. As other commenters said it, keep strong for baby B. And you should put in a formal complaint about that bitch. Take care
Ashley in NY

Posted January 14, 2008 at 8:23 pm | Permalink

sending hugs, support, & love your way. my deepest condolences.
Kristine

Posted January 14, 2008 at 8:29 pm | Permalink

There is absolutely nothing I can say that could possibly touch the pain you must be feeling. I am so very, very sorry.
Flicka

Posted January 14, 2008 at 8:34 pm | Permalink

Oh no, no, no. Oh, Alexa. I’m so sorry.
Leah

Posted January 14, 2008 at 8:39 pm | Permalink

Oh my God. I am so terribly sorry. I’m just so sorry.
cat, galloping

Posted January 14, 2008 at 8:54 pm | Permalink

oh no no no. to say i am so, so sorry to hear this doesn’t begin to cover it.
Beaunal

Posted January 14, 2008 at 9:14 pm | Permalink

I do not know you, but have come to read your blog every single day …. I am so very sorry you are going through this and for the devestating loss of your baby. My thoughts are with you guys. I’m so sorry.
Jenn

Posted January 14, 2008 at 9:19 pm | Permalink

Oh honey, I’m so, so sorry.
another karen

Posted January 14, 2008 at 9:36 pm | Permalink

Here via Mare’s site and feeling so, so, so terribly sad for you and your husband. If thoughts and hopes from a stranger offer you any kind of comfort, please know that you have many of both coming from New England.

Wishing you peace,
karen
Cara

Posted January 14, 2008 at 9:59 pm | Permalink

I am so very sorry.
Portia

Posted January 14, 2008 at 10:06 pm | Permalink

No, no, no, no, no, no…I’m devastated reading this, so there’s no way I can possibly imagine how you’re feeling. I’m so sorry.
Tonya

Posted January 14, 2008 at 10:47 pm | Permalink

I am so deeply sorry.
Kristin

Posted January 14, 2008 at 10:53 pm | Permalink

oh my god. oh fuck. i’m so, so sorry. god. please take care of yourself.
Audrey

Posted January 14, 2008 at 11:04 pm | Permalink

Oh, god, alexa, I am so sorry.
Sam

Posted January 14, 2008 at 11:19 pm | Permalink

I am so sorry.
soralis

Posted January 14, 2008 at 11:22 pm | Permalink

I am so incredibly sorry to hear your news.
Carla Hinkle

Posted January 15, 2008 at 12:26 am | Permalink

I am so very sorry for your loss.
Ann

Posted January 15, 2008 at 12:59 am | Permalink

I could not believe it when I read this post. I am so very, very sorry. I wish I knew of something to ease the incredible pain you are experiencing. I will pray for you.
Carrie P

Posted January 15, 2008 at 2:17 am | Permalink

I’m shocked, horrified and heartbroken for you. So, so sorry.
Meg

Posted January 15, 2008 at 3:39 am | Permalink

Alexa – I am so sorry.
Gillian

Posted January 15, 2008 at 3:58 am | Permalink

This is dreadfully upsetting news, and I’m so sorry. I will be thinking of you.
Ovagirl

Posted January 15, 2008 at 4:19 am | Permalink

I’m so sorry Alexa.
Jean

Posted January 15, 2008 at 6:51 am | Permalink

Alexa,
There is nothing I can say to comfort you, but know my prayers are with you both.
Mary2again

Posted January 15, 2008 at 6:56 am | Permalink

This happened to us earlier on in my pregnancy. There aren’t any words to describe that feeling. I’m sorry. We are all thinking of you all.
Jillyfish

Posted January 15, 2008 at 7:01 am | Permalink

Oh Alexa,

Longtime lurker, first time commenter. If anything warrents a comment, this does. My heart breaks for you. Take care of yourself.
Mary

Posted January 15, 2008 at 7:28 am | Permalink

I am so very, very sorry. Even though you don’t know me from Adam, please know that you are in my thoughts.
Erin

Posted January 15, 2008 at 8:06 am | Permalink

Oh no. No, no, no, no, no. Oh Alexa, words fail me. I am so very, very sorry.
bonnie

Posted January 15, 2008 at 8:08 am | Permalink

I am so very sorry for your loss.
Krissy

Posted January 15, 2008 at 8:13 am | Permalink

There are no words. You are in my thoughts and prayers.
KDA

Posted January 15, 2008 at 8:14 am | Permalink

Oh my gosh, oh my gosh, no. I am so sorry.
Jennifer

Posted January 15, 2008 at 9:02 am | Permalink

I am so terribly sorry that you and Scott are dealing with such a horrible loss. I wish I could help in some way to take away your pain. I just… it’s just so fucking unfair. I will be keeping you in my thoughts and prayers.
Mary Scarlet

Posted January 15, 2008 at 9:06 am | Permalink

Alexa, oh my dear, I am so sorry. This is heartbreaking. I am thinking of you.
kate

Posted January 15, 2008 at 9:22 am | Permalink

How terrible and terrifying. I am so sorry for the loss of your child. I know I can’t do anything from inside the computer, and I have no delusion that you will have peace and healing anytime soon, but please know that this stranger is sending you those peace and healing vibes as hard as I can. My heart breaks for you.
Carla

Posted January 15, 2008 at 9:31 am | Permalink

A co-worker just asked my why I was crying and all I could say was that a friend I have never met just got some terrible news. Alexa, I have no words to tell you how sorry I am. You and Scott are in my thoughts and prayers.
Nicole

Posted January 15, 2008 at 9:53 am | Permalink

I am so sorry Alexa, I will be thinking of you and Scott….all I can say is that the pain subsides in time, I know, Ive been there. It will be hard but stay as focused as you can on Baby B….my heart breaks for you with all th love in the world…
Gerry

Posted January 15, 2008 at 10:00 am | Permalink

Oh Alexa, my stomach dropped when I read this, and I even exclaimed so loud my colleagues asked what was wrong. I am so so sorry.

Shit.Shitty shit shit. Shit!

Wishing you and your family strength and love during this horrible time.
Allie

Posted January 15, 2008 at 10:00 am | Permalink

I’m so very, very sorry.
Christiana

Posted January 15, 2008 at 10:03 am | Permalink

Oh, Alexa , I am so incredibly sorry.
merseydotes

Posted January 15, 2008 at 10:04 am | Permalink

My heart breaks for you. I am so sorry.
Val

Posted January 15, 2008 at 10:12 am | Permalink

I don’t know what to say. I know nothing I can say will make this better, make the pain go away. Just know that you are in my heart and my thoughts and my prayers. I am so sorry.
pixi

Posted January 15, 2008 at 10:14 am | Permalink

My god, that is so awful. I hate to think of the pain you must feel. I’m very sorry, Alexa.
PiquantMolly

Posted January 15, 2008 at 10:26 am | Permalink

Oh my god.

I am absolutely heartbroken for you.

Hold tight to each other during this time, and be kind to yourself. Your friends in the computer are sending all of the love they can.
Kristy

Posted January 15, 2008 at 10:33 am | Permalink

I’m so sorry, Alexa.
Melissa

Posted January 15, 2008 at 10:38 am | Permalink

So very sorry.
Ami

Posted January 15, 2008 at 10:51 am | Permalink

Oh my god, I’m so sorry.
Amelie

Posted January 15, 2008 at 11:07 am | Permalink

I’m so sorry. There are no words for this.
DoctorMama

Posted January 15, 2008 at 11:10 am | Permalink

I wish you didn’t have to go through this.
Please try to remember that this was not your fault in ANY way. Just terrible, terrible luck.
Ginger

Posted January 15, 2008 at 11:25 am | Permalink

So horrible, and so unfair. We love you, Scott, and we are all pulling for you and your family.
rockmama

Posted January 15, 2008 at 11:26 am | Permalink

I can’t say anything other than what everyone else has said. So unbelievably sorry.
Jessie

Posted January 15, 2008 at 11:44 am | Permalink

I am so sorry.
Sara

Posted January 15, 2008 at 12:02 pm | Permalink

I’m so very, very sorry, Alexa.
Nishkanu

Posted January 15, 2008 at 12:27 pm | Permalink

I am so terribly sorry.
Julia

Posted January 15, 2008 at 12:35 pm | Permalink

Alexa, I am so tremendously sorry for your loss.
Heather B.

Posted January 15, 2008 at 12:47 pm | Permalink

I am really, really sorry, Alexa.
May

Posted January 15, 2008 at 12:50 pm | Permalink

I am so very, very sorry. Thinking of you.
meghan

Posted January 15, 2008 at 12:58 pm | Permalink

Oh god. I hate whipping out the trite “I am so unbelievably sorry”, but I don’t know what else to say. I’m praying for you all and will get out my dumb ass receptionist voodoo doll. Again, I’m just so sorry
daysgoby

Posted January 15, 2008 at 12:58 pm | Permalink

I can’t imagine what you’re going through, Alexa.

Good thoughts and prayers to you and your family.
ali

Posted January 15, 2008 at 1:38 pm | Permalink

oh no! i’m so sorry.
{hugs}
Melissa

Posted January 15, 2008 at 1:57 pm | Permalink

My heart goes out to you – I’m so, so sorry.
April

Posted January 15, 2008 at 2:20 pm | Permalink

My heart is so heavy for you.

I am so sorry.
natalie

Posted January 15, 2008 at 2:24 pm | Permalink

I am so, so sorry for your loss.
Feral Mom

Posted January 15, 2008 at 2:40 pm | Permalink

Damn it all to hell. This is horrible news. I’m so sorry. I wish there was some way I could help. I’ll be thinking about you.
Jennifer

Posted January 15, 2008 at 2:42 pm | Permalink

This is terrible news. My heart is breaking for you. I don’t know what else to say.
nina

Posted January 15, 2008 at 3:02 pm | Permalink

oh fuck.

my heart hurts for you, alexa.
KLynn

Posted January 15, 2008 at 3:11 pm | Permalink

Thoughts and prayers.

Waiting for further news and/or information as you feel up to it.
luna

Posted January 15, 2008 at 3:12 pm | Permalink

I came over from L&F. I am so so sorry. There are no words. Wishing you peace and healing. ~luna
Helen

Posted January 15, 2008 at 3:16 pm | Permalink

I’m so sorry – I can’t imagine how you’re feeling, and my heart goes out to you and your family.
Kristen

Posted January 15, 2008 at 3:19 pm | Permalink

I don’t know what to say but I will be praying that somehow, someway peace will find you. I’m so very sorry for your loss.
Lexie Ann

Posted January 15, 2008 at 3:32 pm | Permalink

There are no words for what you are going through. I am very sorry
R

Posted January 15, 2008 at 3:35 pm | Permalink

I am so terribly sorry.
Ann

Posted January 15, 2008 at 3:37 pm | Permalink

I am so, so sorry, Alexa. I can’t stand health care workers who don’t read the chart.

I lost a baby at 20 weeks. Words cannot describe how terrible I feel for you.
Kim

Posted January 15, 2008 at 3:37 pm | Permalink

I’m so sorry. My heart truly aches for you.
Nicole

Posted January 15, 2008 at 3:41 pm | Permalink

Oh my god, I am so very sorry. I wish I knew what to say.

I wish I could be there to give you as many hugs as you need.
Kath

Posted January 15, 2008 at 4:15 pm | Permalink

God, no. No. Sending you and Scott all my love on this unbearable day.
Amanda Hope

Posted January 15, 2008 at 4:35 pm | Permalink

oh god. i can’t believe it. just when it was starting to seem like everything *might* go okay…
Katherine

Posted January 15, 2008 at 4:37 pm | Permalink

Thinking of you, sending you love, wishing you strength.
anna h.

Posted January 15, 2008 at 4:40 pm | Permalink

i am so, so sorry for your loss.
Kat

Posted January 15, 2008 at 4:46 pm | Permalink

I was so devastated to read this post. I have loved your stories about the science babies and was lulled into feeling like everything was safe. I’m so sorry that you and your husband have suffered this terrible loss. I know this is the dumbest thing in the world to say, but this just isn’t fair. It brings tears to my eyes. Your baby was loved. Your baby deserved to meet his wonderful mother and feel your arms around him. I’m so, so sorry.
Anne

Posted January 15, 2008 at 5:03 pm | Permalink

I’m so sorry. It just seems impossible. I’d like to offer up some words of wisdom, but they just aren’t coming. Please know you and Scott are in my thoughts.
cass

Posted January 15, 2008 at 5:10 pm | Permalink

Oh, no. Oh NO. NO NO. Damn. I am so sorry, hon.

I am holding you in my thoughts.
Paula

Posted January 15, 2008 at 5:14 pm | Permalink

I am so sorry. It just doesn’t make any sense that this happened.
Duchess

Posted January 15, 2008 at 5:52 pm | Permalink

This is horrific, I am so very sorry this is happening to you.
fatty

Posted January 15, 2008 at 6:11 pm | Permalink

I’m sorry for the loss of your son. I will pray for you and your husband and daughter.
serenity

Posted January 15, 2008 at 7:55 pm | Permalink

I’m so sorry for your loss.
Delenn

Posted January 15, 2008 at 8:38 pm | Permalink

I am so very sorry. I had not checked in on you for a while because things seemed to be going so very well for you. I am so sorry.
Stacie

Posted January 16, 2008 at 8:44 am | Permalink

I am so so sorry.
Babyamore (Trish)

Posted January 16, 2008 at 8:54 pm | Permalink

I am so sorry for the loss of Ames. I know I can’t do anything from Australia but pray for Simone. My heart breaks for you because I too found out by u/s that my daughter died – we waited 12 yrs for her. It is so unfair.
Lut C.

Posted January 17, 2008 at 4:48 pm | Permalink

What shock! I’m so sorry for your loss.
Cori

Posted January 18, 2008 at 10:59 am | Permalink

My heart aches for your family. There are no words. Prayers and hugs to you.
liz

Posted January 19, 2008 at 8:46 pm | Permalink

Thinking of you. I’m so sorry.
sweetsalty kate

Posted January 20, 2008 at 8:17 am | Permalink

Alexa, I found you through nonhipster mom… we went through the loss of a twin six months ago. I’m so sorry for Ames, and pulling for Simone. this exact same loss happened to a friend of mine, but the loss of one baby of triplets. The two brothers arrived just fine at 37 weeks.

Having given birth at 28 weeks myself, I always felt a bit peeved at people who would chirp, “My brother’s wife’s cousin only weighed two pounds too and they kept him in a shoebox in the oven and now he’s a 250-pound kickboxer! YOU’LL BE FINE!”

So by telling you my friend’s story I just realized I’ve just done the same thing… but now I know why. Just trying to counter the worry, to displace at least a fraction of the worry with a tiny bit of hope.

xo
ali

Posted January 20, 2008 at 8:16 pm | Permalink

Oh my God. There are no words. I am so sorry. I am so very, very, very @#()*@#$ sorry.
tree town gal

Posted January 21, 2008 at 3:03 pm | Permalink

I am so so sorry. There are no other words…
Imogen

Posted January 26, 2008 at 5:45 am | Permalink

Shit. I’m so sorry.
Mara

Posted February 2, 2008 at 6:58 pm | Permalink

I’m so sorry, Alexa. There’s no greater hurt. My thoughts are with you.

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