Comments on: 23 weeks, 3 days.

By: Amanda Hope

Amanda Hope — Sat, 26 Jan 2008 17:20:35 +0000

Happy Viability Day! I think? If I am doing the math correctly? I hope Simone is still staying put and driving nurses crazy, and that bedrest has not yet driven you crazy.

By: Amanda

Amanda — Sat, 26 Jan 2008 16:40:55 +0000

All I can think to say is I can’t imagine there being a person or circumstance by whom, or under which the answer to your closing question could be given. When the time comes, you’ll survive it. Until then, we’ll all be pulling for Simone to prove herself high maintenance and tenacious.

Thinking of you!

By: Nicole

Nicole — Sat, 26 Jan 2008 03:09:27 +0000

I have no idea. I can’t imagine ‘thinking about’ that situation.

I am glad Simone is sitting put and staying healthy. If you want, you can call me, and I can type your posts.

Stay put Simone, stay healthy for mommy.

By: Shannon

Shannon — Sat, 26 Jan 2008 02:14:06 +0000

Alexa,
The answer is in you. I needed to hold, love, and cry for both my daughters, one living and the other dead. One went to the NICU with Dad in tow, the other stayed with me….with me for the next two days. I did not want her to leave my side. Grandparents visited, held her, loved her. Pictures were taken, with swollen and tear-filled eyes and our little one wrapped in a special blanket I had ordered online. And then in the quiet of an afternoon, my husband and I said our good-byes, wrapping her lovingly in her blanket with heavy hearts. It was by far the hardest day of my life! However, the joy of our surviving daughter offers a bittersweet balance. I cry tears for you, your husband, Ames, and Simone. I wish no one had to deal with this kind of a loss. I wish for you continued strength. If it is hard to find it in yourself, then get it from those around you.

By: Accidental Poet

Accidental Poet — Fri, 25 Jan 2008 16:27:08 +0000

re seeing Ames – what do you need, for closure? When my father died, I had no peace AT ALL until I saw his body in the coffin, but that’s me. You need to figure out for yourself what you need to get through to the other side.

By: nishkanu

nishkanu — Fri, 25 Jan 2008 15:34:10 +0000

I wish I had something smart and wise to say to help prop you up a bit but I am short of excellent advice appropriate to the situation so will just say how sorry I am you are going through this, “fear” sounds pretty sensible to me and exactly the attitude I would take, and I hope this can be balanced some by “hope” that things can at least still turn out very well for Simone.

By: Leggy/Clover

Leggy/Clover — Fri, 25 Jan 2008 15:30:13 +0000

Damned if I know.

One would think the hospital might leave you alone about this for a while. I know they want you to be “prepared” (whatever that can mean in these awful circumstances), but aren’t you supposed to be as not stressed as possible during these next critical weeks (again “not stressed as possible” being oxymoronic given the circumstances.)

I am so heartbroken for you (and at the same time relieved that S. continues to do well and stay put). Know that we are rooting for you.

By: Mel

Mel — Fri, 25 Jan 2008 14:06:39 +0000

Hi
Popping over from Flicka’s. So sorry you having such a crap time when this should be he happiest time ever.
So sad for the loss of your baby boy. I pray you are flat on the back for another 2 months at least and Simone only arrives after 35 weeks! Please God!!
Concerning seeing Ames once Simone is born, I think you should ask the nursing staff if they think you should see him. We hope she is only born in many weeks which means you only see Ames in as many. He might not look great due to the time and you might want to hold onto the picture of him in your head and heart instead. If you don’t decide to see him, they can still do a footprint and hand print for you. Rooting for you and your girlie!

By: Stacie

Stacie — Fri, 25 Jan 2008 03:26:17 +0000

I am so sorry. May you be on bedrest, which is not at all restful, for as long as possible.

By: meghan

meghan — Fri, 25 Jan 2008 01:11:36 +0000

I have no new insight and nothing profound to offer at this point, it’s all been said above. But please know that someone down in VA is thinking of you and praying for your little babies. You ask how you plan for the birth…I am in awe that you are getting through each day.

Wishing you continued strength and health!