Salad Days.
I have to say, your comments were a tremendous relief. Between my lack of a third trimester and subsequent post-birth paranoia, I never got around to buying or reading any baby books, with the exception of my well-worn copies of 101 Potentially Crippling Disorders of Prematurity and Through the Plexi-glass: Alice’s Adventures in Wondering-whether-her-baby-will-live-Land. Normal, everyday babycare concepts remain foreign to me, and for all I knew I was supposed to be spending three hours a day alternately teaching Simone Swahili and taking her on sun-dappled walks through a nature preserve. I exaggerate, of course, but I have felt I should be getting outside for outings and spending more time rolling around on the floor with the baby while also managing to call the insurance company and buy toilet paper and eat my vegetables. Each weekend I plan to catch up on work and writing and home so that in the future I will have only the daily maintenance—a tall order in itself—to dispatch, but it never seems to happen. So it was nice to hear that I am not the only mother who feels the days rush by in a disordered clump. Even right now, knowing that Simone is happily asleep in her bassinet, I feel a little pain thinking about the fact that minutes are passing irrevocably, and shouldn’t I maybe run into the bedroom to pet her cheek a bit? In fact, I think I will.
I do not think much of the idea of holding a baby to a strict schedule, and it wasn’t so much a desire to do so that motivated that last post as my confusion about how a typical day with a two-ish month old baby unfolds, intentionally or un. These are the questions that didn’t get answered in the NICU, along with Tummy Time: how much is enough? and Why do baby socks have skid-proof bottoms?
They are happy questions to have. This afternoon, I nursed my cooing baby (THANK YOU DOMPERIDONE) after which she fell asleep in her swing while I loaded the dishwasher and wiped the counters and then settled in with my laptop to alternately type and watch her sleep, and though there was laundry on the floor and my hair was unwashed I felt I was doing exactly what I ought AND what I wanted—a rare pairing.
I have been trying to eat lots of fresh local produce lately, seeing as how it is Farmer’s Market season, and though I cannot hope to repay you for all you have done for me—patted my virtual head, dispensed advice, forgiven my appalling inability to return correspondence in a fashion anyone but a paleontologist would consider timely—I thought I would share a recipe I made up yesterday that turned out tastily. It is a panzanella, and it will benefit greatly from using the very best and freshest ingredients you can find because there is not much to it, and nothing to mask any deficiencies. I made it up as I went along, so I am calling it
ALEXA’S SEAT OF HER PANZANELLA
For two servings you will need:
Medium-sized container with lid
Olive oil
A nice balsamic vinegar
Dijon mustard—the fancier & stronger the better
Sea salt
Freshly ground black pepper
The crusty ends of a loaf of good bread, torn into smallish pieces (I used a roasted garlic loaf I bought from the Farmer’s Market Bread Man, who is a sort of yeasty magician)
Tomatoes (2, roughly chopped)
Onion (1/2 of one small, diced)
Cucumber (one v. little, or 1/3 to 1/2 standard, chopped)
Olives (a handful or two, torn in half—I used Kalamata)
Pear (some, diced)
Soft goat cheese (tablespoonful)
1. Pour a bit of olive oil in your container—perhaps a couple of tablespoons.
2. Add some balsamic vinegar and a small glop of mustard.
3. Whisk.
4. Add salt and pepper, onion, and cucumber.
5. Put lid on container, shake vigorously
6. Add olives, pear, bread.
7. Shake again.
8. Add tomatoes, adjust seasoning
9. Stir or shake.
10. Stir spoonful of goat cheese throughout.
11. Transfer to pretty bowl and serve with wine.
If, like some, you are a vegan, simply omit the goat cheese. If you are a vegan who wants extra protein, add some chickpeas or pistachios or substitute soy cream cheese for the goat cheese. The goat cheese is awfully good, though, and I promise that mine is from goats who only produce milk in their spare time, when they are not playing whist or taking extension courses at the local community college.
Here is what you should end up with:

MMMMMMM.



45 Comments
Boy, I don’t know which is prettier - Simone or that salad! Man! Both are gorgeous and absolutely edible.
Alas, I’ll have to settle for making the salad.
That salad looks and sounds delicious! I have been obsessed with salads lately (just posted about that myself), since in the summer it is simply too hot for anything else. I shall try this one posthaste. Goat cheese…mmmm, goat cheese.
And Simone looks lovely as ever, and no breathing tube! Yay!
i will try that salad! YUM i need something besides my blackeyed pea/cucumber/pepper/onion salad, just to mix it up.
in re: tummy time, you can never get enough, basically. 5 minutes on tummy while crying is better than nothing, and eventually she’ll get used it. that said, any is better than none. so you can feel virtuous by giving her any at all. :)
keep up the amazing work–simone sounds happy and healthy!
That looks SO crazy good! Thanks.
Time to spare to make that tasty salad? Hmm, you’re not doing bad at all. AT ALL!
All I’ve been able to manage for the past 7 months is peanutbutter sandwiches during the day, and nighttime meals that take no more than 15 minutes to prepare. No time for extra’s like a nice yummie salad.
Oh, and no Farmer’s Markets on this side of the planet…
Enjoy your salad, your bi-weekly cleaning service and of course your beautiful, breastsuckling, wireless baby!
Looks tasty. Don’t fret schedules…I still don’t get done what I plan to do at the time I plan to do it.
Oh that looks nice and tasty. I will have to wait for summer to make it, but it looks delicious.
Mm, salad for lunch, Simone’s cute cheeks for desert!
Okay, that salad? YUM. And that baby? ALSO YUM! Truly, your house is a delicious place to be.
And writing while gazing upon a sleeping Simone? Seems a lovely way to pass an afternoon.
For all you’ve been through you have a really great attitude. And reading your writing is such a joy. Like gazing into a sun dapply meadow with a sweet breeze blowing back your hair.
my theory as an aunt about those non-skid socks is that they really serve to make putting socks on babies easier: find bumpy side. put bumpy side on bottom of foot. i’ve always thought of it as baby-braille-speak for “this side down”.
Hi Alexa, I have a three and a half year old and I still feel that way. It is a little easier to set a schedule for the day, but I find that I do that in the morning for each day, rather than try to do the same thing every day. As long as I know that we are fed and rested,we were ok. Its all about balance, and I dont think anyone truely has it figured out.
Enjoy her, the cleaning can always wait, and Simone will thank you for your time and the laundry never will!
I’m not sure which baby book told you to give your baby Dom Perignon, but if it’s working…
oh…
wait…
nevermind.
Welcome to Motherhood, my sweet and hilarious friend. I’m not sure I’ve done all that I *should* in years.
In fact, I consider the fact that my kids haven’t yet murdered each other as a personal victory.
And Simone is too cute for words.
Simone is *SO* cute! And the salad looks delicious. Perfect for us non-meat-eaters! I’m going to whip up some for us this weekend. And will serve it with plenty of wine……. :)
Your last post brought vividly to my mind an entry I made in the calendar I kept after my daughter was born. (20+ years ago) It read:
“Rachel went to bed at 7 p.m. and slept until 9. Up until 11, then slept until 12:30. Fell asleep and was up again from 1 a.m. until about 4. Slept from 4 to 6. What a good night!!”
It’s the perky “What a good night!” that sort of makes me sob now.
Not that you were writing about sleep problems…but it just brought back that feeling of exhaustion and of running very, very hard just to stay in one place….
“I felt I was doing exactly what I ought AND what I wanted—a rare pairing”
YAY YAY YAY
That is what is important. Congrats on success with the Dom. That stuff rocks!
That looks freakin’ awesome. Will make, stat.
your salad is nice looking and all, but i can barely see it for the dazzle simone sets off.
Damn all these blogs with pictures of yummy-looking food. I’m starving!! Must go eat lunch when I can tear myself away from the computer. Anyway, glad to see that Simone has kicked her O2 to the curb - I absolutely loved the little video with her dancing and showing off her fancy foot-work.
You rock.
Baby and recipe both look delicious!
On the whole uncertainty-of-motherhood topic, I found that the weekly trip to my post-natal group was hugely useful in figuring out what you were supposed to do with the small person. If the nurse facilitating the group that week was an idiot, one of the other Mums was usually either a source of information or a shoulder to sob brokenly on. Also, now the babies are older, they enjoy seeing their pals.
I am awed that you are managing to write as well as caring for a premature infant. They certainly seem to be harder work than the average full-termer, although I suppose that might be either my self-pity or warped perceptions talking!
Yeah, tummy time, I don’t know. They’ll roll onto their tummies themselves eventually, and until they can do that most kids HATE being on their stomachs. I wouldn’t worry about doing any tummy time. So a kid who doesn’t do much tummy time crawls at seven months rather than six; so what? People get too worked up about the timetable.
It’s not the timing of crawling that’s the issue with tummy time — it’s avoiding the flattening of the back of the head.
Lovely photo of Simone, and I’m *so* glad to hear that nursing is going better!!
Been reading for a while now, just thought I’d pass along this nugget regarding tummy time…my pediatrician once told me that tummy time includes the time that you hold a baby up in your arms, with said baby peering over your shoulder. I infer that this is to strengthen baby’s neck and help baby learn to hold his/her head up. So, if you hold Simone a lot in this fashion (as I did/do with my children), then she will have the chance to exercise in this way. Therefore, the actual on-the-tummy tummy time doesn’t need to be so daunting.
P.S. Love reading about your journey, both for the writing and the content.
that salad sounds yummy– can’t wait to make it– also– so glad that someone else besides me curls up with their book/laptop/icecream and ignores the piles of laundry/dishes/etc– while baby is sleeping– it sounds like you and baby are doing very well!
Oh, SarahR, your comment made me laugh. Perky, indeed, and sobbing indeed. Too funny.
So glad Simone is thriving, you are feeling better about your lack of schedule, and eating what looks like a lovely salad to boot. I’m on a no-wheat kick (you didn’t anticipate us no-wheaters, now did you?) and am debating what to substitute for the bread. Maybe more tomatoes. It’s hard to go wrong with fresh tomatoes.
And tummy time…feh. (Then again, this is coming from the woman who admitted one post back that she wasn’t into bath-before-bed). We did very little of it, though I did carry DS a lot (per whoever posted about flat-back-of-head problems).
tummy time is to avoid flattening the back of the head. but it’s really to strengthen the shoulder girdle in prep for crawling, fine motor tasks, including writing eventually. and it CAN be done held at your shoulder, but better if you are draped across the couch cushions with baby on your chest/shoulder. :) so they can bear more weight through the arms, you see. (and it puts refluxy babies on an incline too!)
Aw, I have that onesie. Isn’t it festive?
Re Tummy Time:
I wish it had a less dorky sounding name.
I have a baby who is a champ at tummy time, a baby who I spent hours coaching and encouraging, a baby who liiiiives in her Bumbo, a baby…with a head so unapologetically flat, you could use it as a builder’s level.
I have a baby who hates being on her stomach, who never had the energy to sit upright, was wobbly for months…and her head is the flawless darling shape of one of those 50’s Dick and Jane illustrations.
So, y’know, I think it’s all a load of crap. I also think that if they KNOW that back sleeping delays certain milestones and they want us to put babies to sleep on their backs for safety reasons, they should just adjust the milestones and stop making everyone crazy.
I keep thinking I should be more worked up over my flat headed child, but she’s beautiful, and that’s what hair is for.
I will fold your laundry in exchange for some salad. Yum!
Mine screamed like a howler monkey r.e. tummy time. Now she sleeps on her stomach. Go figure.
And I am making that salad TONIGHT!
yummy I want some! I will have to give that recipe a try!
Q: How do I know I’m reading a blog written by a Minnesotan?
A: There’s a mention of whist.
Card-playing rocks. I don’t have nearly enough card-playing friends… :(
Thanks for the recipe, I made it today for lunch and it was DELICIOUS!
Oh, that picture of Simone is so precious! She is a doll.
I haven’t read your blog for a while (rude I know) and its so cool to see a pic of your precious girlpants. You sound like you are doing a fab job and being a typical 1st time mum… isn’t that so cool!
I run a charity at a state hospital in South Africa and deal with prem babies all the time who have a special place in my heart. They are so brave and feisty and have souls far bigger than their teeny hairy bodies.
Mmmm, that looks delicious. Too bad Simone has no teeth, I’m sure she’s a bastion of infantile taste. She’d enjoy it.
You write beautifully, you have a beautiful daughter and that salad? Beautiful ….
How many WW points, do you think?
Thanks!
That baby gets more delicious everyday. I love the “no tubes” look on her. She’s really working it! I don’t know if this is helpful but as the mother of a now 15 (gasp!) year old, all I can say is that you will find your footing as a confident mom sooner than you realize (if you haven’t already) and you don’t really need a single baby book because the best teacher is the baby herself. She’ll be trash to you and staying out past her curfew in no time!
correction: “talking trash”
Mine are so old that we didn’t know what tummy time was….in fact we were afraid to put them on their backs because we thought they would choke! The days whiz by so fast even when they’re grown. Enjoy that precious baby! Let the laundry sit!
M hated formal tummy time, with a passion. However, she loved snuggling on my chest, which counts as I understand it. Snuggle more, screw the formalities.
I have managed to go to the store (rained out the farmer’s market thursday) three times, and I have half the ingredients. I will eventually remember to get the rest and then I can try it, because drooling every time I go here has got to stop somehow.
What beautiful eyes! Are they brown or dark green? Your baby looks so yummy I could nibble on her! My baby would be sooooo jealous :)
SHE’S GOT HAIR! Visible hair! Also, you must explain how she got that scratch on her face, even if you don’t even know. You might as well start now, everyone always wants to know how THAT happened, be it a bruise or a scratch or whatever. Yes, the bruise smack dab in the middle of my toddler’s forehead was from banging it on the floor, and how many moms felt ever so much better that theirs was not the only one. It’s a little annoying but it also is part of the sisterhood credo: No, you are not the only one, unless you seriously are.
Mmmmmm… that looks tasty. Rather than me making it, how about I just steal yours :D.