Comments on: Prelude.

By: Dani

Dani — Tue, 02 Sep 2008 20:01:49 +0000

Sorry to be so late in the reading here, we’ve been homeless and without internet for two weeks….
But I remember how well I did in the NICU. How relaxed and amazingly well I did as we dealt with the innumerable ups and downs.
I crashed hard when he came home. A few months later when I when I went back to work to the hospital that he was born in and needed to walk up the stairs toward the NICU.
I still can’t walk up those stairs. It’s like my personal juju is stuck there.
Get it out. Lots of people need to know that there is someone else going through the same thing.

By: Lynn

Lynn — Fri, 29 Aug 2008 02:17:01 +0000

You are unbelievably courageous to get this all out. Thank you for sharing!

By: Kelsey

Kelsey — Thu, 21 Aug 2008 13:27:59 +0000

My son is five months old, but was born two months early after a month of (mostly hospitalized) bed rest. I completely understand what you are talking about. While I am so grateful to have a healthy baby boy, I find the strangest things hit me like emotional bricks. I haven’t processed all my anger and grief because I’ve been too busy feeling like I should ONLY feel grateful.

Thank you for sharing.

By: Elizabeth

Elizabeth — Wed, 20 Aug 2008 18:23:35 +0000

I am sitting here in my office with tears in my eyes. My son was born over a year ago after losing one twin at 22 weeks and going into labor afterwards. My son hung on inside for 11 more weeks and was born at nearly 33 weeks. We were very lucky. His birth was hard, his twin was born in the morning, he was born in the evening. It was sad and your post made me realize that I too am experiencing some delayed grief. Thank you.

By: Lisa

Lisa — Wed, 20 Aug 2008 16:48:11 +0000

Eight years ago our last daughter was stillborn. We found out that she had died after my water broke (I was 40 weeks, 6 days) and no heartbeat was found. At the hospital ultrasound we confirmed that Kelli had indeed died. We had planned a homebirth and desperately wanted to continue with that plan. So, we went home and I was in crisis mode. I was ready to do what I had to do. I didn’t fall apart until later on after Kelli was born. So, I sooo know what you are talking about.

Talking is one of the best ways of dealing with trauma, I’m glad that you are doing so now. Hugs

By: TheHMC

TheHMC — Wed, 20 Aug 2008 16:03:42 +0000

I know what you mean about Crisis Mode! and everything crashing down after the Big Stuff is over.
I’ll be right here, waiting for every.last.word.

By: Erin

Erin — Wed, 20 Aug 2008 04:20:12 +0000

No matter what, we’ll be here. Reading, laughing, crying and holding your hand. If you feel a little squeeze, that’s me.

By: Beth

Beth — Wed, 20 Aug 2008 03:52:48 +0000

I had the scariest experience of my life during the last 9 weeks of my pregnancy. I still — 16 months later — haven’t been able to write about it. But I’m hoping to one day as I know it will be quite cathartic. You are an amazing writer and I feel honored, here in the blogosphere, that you are willing to share your story. I hope I’ll find the strength to do the same one of these days.

By: Sarah

Sarah — Wed, 20 Aug 2008 02:38:39 +0000

I was wondering when this was coming. I’m almost relieved that it has.

By: JSM

JSM — Wed, 20 Aug 2008 00:46:08 +0000

I am holding your hand and crying alongside you.