Comments on: Coda.

By: Duchess

Duchess — Wed, 10 Sep 2008 19:47:16 +0000

Thank you.

By: Heidi Renee

Heidi Renee — Thu, 04 Sep 2008 12:44:25 +0000

Sometimes I think it is the pain in our lives that carves out the spaces for more joy to fill. I am so sorry for your loss, but celebrate as I read your whole words. Thank you for telling your story, it has enriched my own.

By: angela michelle

angela michelle — Fri, 29 Aug 2008 19:33:11 +0000

I think the fact that you haven’t bunkered down into Woman-with-a-Troubled-Past shows your wisdom and strength. You know better than others how wonderful is a normal day with a healthy, safe familiy.

(To Sarah, above, I think sometimes the whole pregnancy/chilbirth thing puts certain body parts in slightly different…and better…places.)

By: Sarah

Sarah — Tue, 26 Aug 2008 21:53:05 +0000

Beautiful heartfelt post. I love hearing about how much you are taken with your beautiful daughter. Regarding having a baby and your now great sex life, I wonder how that happens? Definitely didn’t happen for me. But I had a friend who said that after her C-section, she had lots of multiple you know whats. Funny.

By: Jane

Jane — Tue, 26 Aug 2008 18:06:52 +0000

I love both your eloquence and your strength. These posts do a wonderful job of documenting how it is to be a mother of one surviving twin. You transform into a new being and it can feel very good.

But as someone who lost a child 17 years ago and thought I too was long over it — I’m not sure that you are ever entirely completely over it. Friendly warning ahead, feel free to disregard it entirely — be prepared for that loss to resurface in strange, unexpected ways in the coming months and years. Allow some space for all that pain and loss to come back into your life and be ready to recognize it when it does.

Otherwise, so thrilled that you are here and writing so fiercely!

By: Nicole

Nicole — Tue, 26 Aug 2008 03:16:42 +0000

I am also a new mother. I spent my entire pregnancy terrified that something would go wrong – Partially because any well informed person knows that SO much can go wrong. As you said before, it is a wonder than any of us survived. And I am grateful every day, and in every ounce of my being for my fat happy baby. I also experienced a very painful and life altering loss. There are gifts to be garnished from such horrendous events – Like the ability to see the seemingly normal and mundane, as truly extraordinary. And unfortunately we will forevermore be aware, even if only in the furthest recesses of our minds, that the worst is in fact, possible.

You are an achingly beautiful wordsmith and I am glued to every word you write. And though your story is one of great loss, its true message is of a great triumph. Your truth, your strength, your courage, your cynicism, your humor, your optimism and your humility are inspirational. Thank you for unabashedly sharing so much of yourself. Your family is amazing and you are my hero.

By: Erin

Erin — Tue, 26 Aug 2008 03:07:24 +0000

I’m way behind on commenting here, but, thank you so much for writing this! Your courage astounds me!!

Also, you have one heck of a beautiful little girl there!

By: Becky

Becky — Tue, 26 Aug 2008 01:58:43 +0000

Wow, thank you for writing that all down. I just found your blog and read it all at once. Now I’m looking forward to catching up on your archives.

By: nycreb

nycreb — Mon, 25 Aug 2008 23:07:45 +0000

thank you for sharing, really.

By: athena p

athena p — Mon, 25 Aug 2008 22:37:13 +0000

Thank you for allowing yours to be another story that we can all shape our lives into. For being a woman with whom I share no actual connection but who truly seems, at times, to be my soulmate friend. A woman who says with more clarity and poignant wit the things that I may never have the courage to say. If I am ever at the place you are, or have been, it is my hope that I can carry your story with me even then – so that I may triumph as magnificently as you have.

Thank you for refusing to dwell. Thank you for picking up your head and your heart and moving on. Thank you for feeling blessed. Thank you most of all for sharing with the rest of us. It’s been said, and I’ll re-iterate to no end – you are an inspiration. I am honored to “know” you.