Comments on: Of Things Past.

By: dora

dora — Mon, 19 Oct 2009 22:05:37 +0000

I can’t help but wonder how Simone will feel when she reads this.

By: Kathleen

Kathleen — Mon, 19 Oct 2009 18:27:23 +0000

Thank you for this lovely post, Alexa.

Grief is terrible and often lonely journey, and one that I wish I wasn’t on. I lost my daughter at 18 weeks gestation on October 6, 2006. This anniversary was the hardest yet, and I’m not sure why. I just wanted the day to be over – so I went to bed at 5:30, just so I could wake up on October 7.

I also have a daughter who is the same age as your lovely Simone – and I know that had I not lost her sister, I would not have her.

It’s complicated. It’s life. Thanks for a thoughtful post.

By: amanda

amanda — Sun, 18 Oct 2009 17:44:43 +0000

Kubler Ross was VERY, VERY right.

By: Ellen

Ellen — Sun, 18 Oct 2009 03:52:24 +0000

Wow…..you are an amazing and gifted writer! This post really touched my core.

By: Apron Stings

Apron Stings — Sat, 17 Oct 2009 21:19:21 +0000

xoxo.

By: Ashley

Ashley — Sat, 17 Oct 2009 18:28:21 +0000

I missed you so sharply reading these few latest posts of yours. I am sending lots of love to you and your beloved babies- to the one you can hold and the one you can remember.

By: Christiana

Christiana — Sat, 17 Oct 2009 16:02:35 +0000

I didn’t get over here on the 15th, but when i heard it was pregnancy loss rememberance day, I did think of you and Ames.

I am glad you wrote about him and your memories.

By: Margaret

Margaret — Sat, 17 Oct 2009 03:52:20 +0000

I had to comment because while I found your post incredibly moving, I disagree with one part. You mentioned the people who remember tangentially. One of my best friends lost her son, Rylan, the day after he was delivered (on Christmas Day) from an e.coli infection. Not a day goes by that I don’t think of her. Of course, I know that I don’t experience the level of grief that she does, but the rest of us do remember, and my hope is that I can always give her the space to mention her son without awkwardness. I am so sorry for your loss, and I am sad that these things still happen. You can write about Ames all you want and I guarantee you that the rest of us will read it and weep with you.

By: Kirsten

Kirsten — Sat, 17 Oct 2009 03:10:20 +0000

Oops, I meant “write” of course, not “right.”

By: Kirsten

Kirsten — Sat, 17 Oct 2009 03:09:41 +0000

Such a moving post, as are all your posts about Ames. You right about your grief with such honesty it takes my breath away.