Seasonal, Belated.
The holidays were lovely, here. I mean, it doesn’t get much better than a baby in fake hair, does it?

I had Christmas Eve pasta at my brother’s/mother’s house, alternately gazing up at the giant tree festooned with familiar ornaments and watching my daughter discover our old wind-up toys beneath the branches. Simone developed a bizarre obsession with Ray Charles, and worked on her dancing (adding a slow, deliberate twirl.)
Having remembered a tearful and unattractively petulant pre-Christmas screed about how there wasn’t ANYTHING I wanted except more time in the day and a fluffy, welcoming king-sized bed (neither of which I could HAVE, woe unto ME), my mother surprised me with a certificate for the latter. I had a sort of shopping-related seizure at IKEA yesterday, wherein I bought not only the bed and a mattress and bedding but also a dresser and laundry hampers and bookcases to replace our VERY child-unfriendly tottering shelves, all despite the fact that our current furniture is still…here. This will presumably be worked out this weekend by fate, my husband, myself, and Craigslist. I’ve undertaken a massive apartment overhaul, which, while ill-timed, makes me happy. Being under crushing quantities of stress is more difficult when the place where you are supposed to relax is not relaxing. (I’ll post some before and after pictures, once there is an after.)
I wrote through the holidays, while it snowed and snowed. Though my overstimulated toddler required much tiresome wrangling at the family festivities, Schmutzli spared her a beating. I even gave her some presents, most notably a chair and a doll.


Finding the doll was quite an adventure. Simone is in an affectionate, doll/animal/anything-with-a-face -loving phase, and I wanted to get her something nicer than the tiny “baby” from Target that she carries about, the one with TWO LEFT ARMS, poor unfortunate thing. I thought a doll with hair might appeal to her follicular obsession, and also, yes, give her hair to pull at night besides my own. I like Corolle dolls quite a lot: they are well-made, BPA-free, machine-washable, come in many sizes, and have expressions that are neither creepy nor inappropriately blow-up-doll-esque (I’m looking at YOU, Baby Alive). But have you noticed how many baby dolls have blonde hair and blue eyes?
I have nothing against blonde hair and blue eyes—I have both, myself. But, for whatever reason, it seemed important to me that Simone have a doll that looked like HER, especially given the seeming omnipresence of blue-eyed toys. I know, I know: it’s silly, and even Simone had blue eyes when she was a baby, as most light-skinned newborns do. If I hadn’t been looking at BABY dolls, with hair, there would have been a greater variety, instead of the current triumvirate of Blonde/Blue Eyed Paleface Doll, Black Doll, and Asian Doll. Options were also limited because I wanted the doll to be small enough for her to manage, and thought short hair would be best, to reduce the odds of it becoming a vast synthetic dreadlock. I finally managed to find a discontinued model that was at least Simone-esque (brown eyes, where hers are olive; red hair, where hers is indeterminately colored), though I was given the impression that it is “supposed” to be a boy.
Simone was pleased with my selection. She kisses her baby, and picks at its eyes with affection.

In fact, Simone was delighted by everything this holiday season—from Duplos to her discovery of apples—the one fly in her ointment being the glasses she refuses to wear. She has an eye appointment next week, so let’s hope it shows that her reluctance is due to improving eyesight rather than rapidly escalating TWO-ness. Her birthday, after all, is next month.

I find it hard to believe that it has been a decade since 2000, but on the other hand, it seems impossible that I fit so much—my best of times, my worst of times—into only ten slim years. In January of 2000, I was a 20-year-old virgin, home from my first semester of college. I was very certain (and very, very wrong) about what lay ahead for me. It’s so startling when things don’t go at all how you’d planned, and yet manage to turn out better than you’d expected.
I hope you ALL had a happy start to your new year, and that only the very best things follow you through it.





37 Comments
Happy New Year to you!
1. Would you be willing to share the source of that FABULOUS chair? Want!
2. “vast synthetic dreadlock” = the single best piece of linguistic magic I’ve read in just about forever. Ha! Or maybe it’s just because *I* myself have, within the past week, spent two consecutive hour-long sessions sitting on the floor of my almost-four-year-old’s room with a two different kinds of brushes and one detangler comb, a bottle of water, and a bottle of kids’ detangling spray, to work out the very mythical dreadlock of which you speak. In this case, on a Kirsten American Girl doll circa 1991 (mine, happily handed down as she was still in brand-new condition and I would not have been able to shell out the $100 for a new one for the girl). I made the mistake of not protesting strongly enough when Mia wanted to take the doll’s hair out of its braids (there was a reason I left it that way when I last touched it when I was 12 years old, and that it has stayed that way lo these 19 years in a storage tub in my mother’s basement). Hence the dreadlock of ferocity. And since I did triumph (oh, I did), Mia has been soundly threatened with all manner of punishment if she dares to remove the braids again. I have better things to do with my time. Like clean play-dough out of my natural fiber woven rug. Do we see a pattern of unfortunate choices for amenities in a home with two kids under 4?
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3. I’m happy for you and your Ikea overhaul. . .I’m a big fan of those myself! My wish for you is that it makes you feel all refreshed and un-blocked (in the writerly sense, not the gastrointestinal sense, although I certainly hope for no blockage issues there as well), and will buoy you as on eagle’s wings toward your deadline!
Kara
Love her and that doll! How cute! And when I saw the doll in the chair, I thought it was Simone at first. I was like… my that is a large chair for a baby… and where did all that hair come from… oh… right. haha :)
My daughter has a Corolle doll very similar to Simone’s… except it has blonde hair and blue eyes. She, fortunately, also has blonde hair and blue eyes. But you’re right, it’s strange how those two traits are so overrepresented among dolls.
I’m a new reader (just made it through your entire archives over Christmas!) and a new fan of Simone’s. What a delightful baby. Err, toddler. (My mother would say that she’ll *always* be your baby, which is of course true despite being trite.) For some reason I’m completely enchanted by that shot of her from behind, putting the doll into the stroller.
I can’t wait to see before and after pictures. I love before and after pictures.
Can I ask where you got her dress? My daughter has the PERFECT shoes for it. If your interested, these:
http://www.flyingpeas.com/skr-neo.html
Aww, darling Simone with her baby! Thanks for sharing her with us, and Happy New Year!
i love your writing. I found your blog recently and haven’t had time to read through your archives. have you said what it is that your book will be about? good luck! you are a talented writer. my aspiration.
Loved the shots of Simone breastfeeding her new doll. Too sweet. My son did that with his doll, too.
Hey, I had an ill-timed apartment overhaul as well! I made Sean lug my old desk up here from my parents’ house and then discovered that it fit….no-where in our apartment. So now I have two desks, one functional but repainted (turquoise!) and one in pieces in the corner of the bedroom. It’s like a bloody IKEA warehouse in here. Come over and have some Swedish meatballs with lingonberry sauce!
simone is so adorable that I can barely stand it.
happy new year to you, Alexa!
Simone is looking like a redhead to me!
Your apartment overhaul, rather than being ill-timed, is perfectly timed retail therapy. The pictures are great, and I look forward to both the before and after shots and you finishing the book (selfishly, so that we hear from you more often). Happy new year.
Happy holidays darling. Missed you SO much. Simone is adorable.
Nice entry/column.
I have to agree with your observation that the last ten years certainly didn’t deliver anything that I could have predicted. It’s fun to imagine where we’ll all be by 2020! Happy New Year!
alexa……….you are just fantastic! i can’t wait to read your book. cheers to you in the new year. you have great perspective!
Those baby braids are awesome! Where did you get that fabulous chair? We wanted to get our daughter something like it for Christmas, and ended up with the Disney Princess foam kind. Somehow. Anyway, welcome back,have a productive and happy new year!
Happy new year!
Simone and her doll look adorable.
Happy New Year!
Our condo is in need for a major overhaul too. I am ignoring it because my 2 year old son’s nickname is the terminator. We are in desperate need of some grown up bedroom furniture however, since ours is comprised of the same items I purchased straight out of college. We’ll see what’s in the cards for 2010.
You are a wonderful writer btw. I know you are closing in on your deadline and updating your blog is way down on the list but I check your site everyday nonetheless. I was so happy to see this today. Good luck with your book! I can’t wait to read it.
OH YUM YUM YUM. A new blog entry. I know you’re really busy and so I don’t snarl curses every time I check and there is nothing new but how I miss you. And this one was a nice long one and funny and had pix of the gorgeous family. I don’t have anything to add except that I can’t wait for your book to be published so that I can go into seclusion and read it all in one sitting. Happy New Year! (p.s. no one had the decade they would have ever predicted – for me: new job, divorce, marriage, 2 children, home owner for first time.)
Yay, a new Alexa post! My day is brightened.
Maybe it’s the lighting in the pics, but I think the doll’s hair looks pretty close to Simone’s. As for the glasses, maybe you could try putting a pair of glasses(fake, obviously)on the doll? If her baby wears them, maybe Simone would be more willing to keep hers on.
Beautiful pics..I can’t believe how big she is! LOVE the chubby cheeks…NOM! Sorry, she is just so squeezably cute.
So glad you are doing well and happy and things are just ticking along. And yes, I am hoping very very much that you finish the book soon and we can all read it.
And you know–hoping you are feeling less anxious and more organized with new furniture and things everywhere. It’s amazing what organized surroundings do.
I’ve missed your writing and I love this post and the happiness and realistic optimism it conveys. You’re a gem. And that Simone is darn cute, too.
Simone has hair!
…kind of.
(And it’s lovely).
I live for Ikea overhauls. That place makes me indescribably happy. Pretty sure my favorite part of the holidays was my trip(s) there to get the stuff for the kid’s room to accommodate more mature toys.
Love the doll. I know the desire for things that look like us, our kids. I was always black haired and brown eyed, but shockingly not Asian, which seemed to be the only way I could get my combo of hair/eyes.
I can’t believe that she’s almost two.
I am wishing you the very same.
I think I found another picture of Schmutzli for you. I was going to e-mail it to you, but apparently I’m not computer literate enough to find your addy. Here’s the link instead!
http://pictureisunrelated.com/2009/12/24/christmas-ornament-with-a-message/#comments
Just have to say Simone is so adorable! My own girl is almost two and I just love this age- she still looks like a baby but can say and do such unexpected things.
I’m glad your holidays were merry! Looking forward to the before/after pictures. Maybe I’ll get inspired!
That fabric! (On Simone’s chair!) It was designed by one of my other favorite bloggers, Jessica Jones from How About Orange! Blog kismet, for real!
I love that she “picks at its eyes with affection”! I, too, am always on the lookout for non-blond/blue baby dolls. My daughter has dark blond hair and brown eyes, so that’s my favorite combination to find.
I love how contented and centered Simone looks when she’s on her dad’s lap!
Excellent haul, for both of you!
Great chair! I love the pictures of Simone nursing her doll. So sweet. My daughter does the same thing with her dolls. One day I caught her with my pump too!
I like the Stella dolls too–the blond one has brown eyes and there are various hair and skin colors to choose from.
http://www.amazon.com/Manhattan-Toy-122020-STELLA-BLONDE
Happy new year!
Oops, sorry. Wrong link. Here you go:
http://www.amazon.com/Manhattan-Toy-122020-STELLA-BLONDE/dp/B001DZMITW
our girls wanted american girl dolls that look like them, but the closest thing for my jews with hazel eyes & medium length wavy hair is an african american doll. ugh. they did, however, just come out with rebecca rubin, the jewish-american girl who looks just like them! anyhoo – i’ll have to go look at corelle for more combos.
AAAAAHH!!! She’s so cute!!! Haven’t visited your blog for a while, she’s growing up so fast.